Where does the strong reluctance to confront aggression come from when there is no scientific explanation for it? In the book you are holding in your hands, I will try to answer this question. In addition, I will try to draw a clear line between destructive and constructive aggression, since there is no doubt that both types of aggression exist, but the first, unlike the second, does not enrich anyone's life and does not bring benefits to a civilized society.

Trying to find out what gives rise to resentment, anger, violence and hatred and making an effort to deal with violent feelings in the family, in the kindergarten and on the street, are two very different things. Thanks to forty years of clinical and teaching experience, I have arrived at some practical answers, which I will present here.

Recently, not only aggression among children and young people has been labeled "problematic". In homes and day care centers, there is a tendency to stigmatize all basic emotions except happiness as unacceptable. The perception that underlies this trend makes parents deny their human nature and

turn into actors. This understanding is not drawn from the wisdom of the present or the past, nor from any newfound knowledge of what will propel humanity forward. However, it shapes our ideas of the "good" and "successful" person.

Constructive aggression is like sexuality and love: these three things taken together are the reason we exist; they enrich our relationships with others, enable us to think more deeply and lead better lives. If we embrace the mentioned three aspects of life that each of us carries within us, we will be able to give freedom of action to those children and youth who rely on us and our empathetic support.

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"Aggression: Why We and Our Children Need It" is an important medical textbook aimed at parents, educators, psychologists and all who work with children. This textbook provides a complete and thorough understanding of the nature of aggression, its causes and consequences, and strategies for effective management and prevention of aggressive behavior.

To begin, the textbook analyzes the concept of aggression and examines the different forms it can take, including physical, verbal, social and psychological aggression. The authors provide a detailed explanation of the factors that influence the development of aggressive behavior in children, including genetic, social, emotional, and cultural factors.

The following sections of the textbook discuss the different causes of aggression and how they manifest in different age groups. The authors consider the influence of the family environment, the educational system, the media and other external factors on the formation of aggressive behavior in children.

An important aspect of the textbook is the examination of the psychological and emotional aspects of aggression. The authors provide information on the internal causes of aggression, such as stress, anger, fear, and low self-esteem, as well as ways in which these emotions can be managed and overcome.

The textbook does not neglect the issues of education and upbringing of children. The authors present a variety of approaches and strategies for managing aggressive behavior in children, including positive parenting, modeling desired behavior, developing emotional intelligence, and strengthening social skills.

The essential role of parents and teachers in the management of aggression in children is also emphasized in the textbook. The authors provide guidelines for creating an appropriate environment for growth and development, as well as for effective communication with children and establishing the boundaries of acceptable behavior.

In addition, the textbook focuses on the importance of cooperation between different institutions and community organizations in the fight against aggression and directs attention to the early detection and timely intervention of aggressive behavior.

In conclusion, Aggression: Why We, and Our Children, Need It is an extremely useful and informative resource for anyone involved in raising and educating children. This textbook not only provides a thorough understanding of the nature of aggression, but also offers valuable strategies for the prevention and management of this serious problem.